Dr. Lisa Goes Head-to-Head With Owner of Brothel on CNN

19 09 2008

Last week I appeared on CNN with Dennis Hof, the owner of the most famous legal brothel in Nevada. The topic was a 22-year-old who was auctioning off her virginity to help pay for graduate school-she wants to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. Yikes! Things got pretty heated on the show…..

As you can imagine, I wasn’t a fan of the idea. It’s her body and her choice as to what she wants to do with it (this is NOT the first auction of this kind). But what effect will this very public auction have on young girls graduating from high school-especially  if their family doesn’t have money to send them to college?

Will these girls decide to finance their education by auctioning off their virginity to the highest bidder?

I have a Ph.D in Psychology and paid for my education with a combination of waitressing, student loans, and low-paying counseling jobs. What about those options?

This public “virginity auction” comes at an interesting time. Virginity is actually fashionable again now that The Jonas Brothers and other pop stars are talking about the virtue of waiting until marriage to have sex. Even if teens can’t wait until marriage, don’t we at least want them to wait until they’re in a committed relationship-rather than the one with the most CASH?

I find it sad….for the auctionee, but mostly for the young people who will hear about her and think it’s a good idea.





Sadly, the “Mommy Wars” Are Back……..

5 09 2008

Moms around the country are putting up their dukes about Palin’s decision to run for VP, given her current status as a mother.

Mommy Wars

Mommy Wars

In one corner……..

Many mothers know the tremendous amount of love, time, energy and sacrifice (willingly given) that goes into raising children when one is devoted to their health and happiness. They question Sarah Palin’s decision to run for Vice President NOW.

Why not wait until her 4-month-old who was born with Down Syndrome is older?

Why not be more available to him during these critical developmental years?

Sarah Palin is 42, so they believe she has plenty of time to run for National office. But, she will not have another chance for these early years with him. Because Palin’s 17-year old, un-wed pregnant daughter will also need a great deal of love and support as she tries to raise a newborn, these moms believe Palin should also be available to her.

The issue with these moms is not “working mothers”—MOST mothers work—whether they want to or have to. It is the nature of her job: running the most powerful country in the world. These mothers criticize Palin’s “priorities” and say that she is selfish, putting her personal need for power and success above the needs of her children—two of whom are in special situations right now.

In the other corner……

And in this corner....

Many mothers are thrilled to have a candidate who is a working mother they can relate to. They’re attitude is “you go girl!” They believe that Palin’s husband should be–and can be–an equal partner in the care giving of the children.

In this day and age, they believe he can even be…. READ MORE Read the rest of this entry »